Sex with vibrator? Yes please! There’s nothing hornier than when a partner agrees to use a sex toy during sex.
Studies show that more than 50% of vulva owners use vibrators to aid their orgasm, and a 2019 study found that vulva owners who used vibrators both alone and with a partner reported greater sexual satisfaction than those who used a vibrator just for themselves.
8 Ways to Have Sex with Vibrator
Here are 8 ways to have sex with vibrator!
1. start with a slow setting
Circle your nipples first with the tip and then your partner’s. Increase the speed as you circle the nipples. Use the vibrator alternately and suck on each other’s nipples: The back and forth and the warmth of your lips feel great.
2. the remote control vibrator
A big advantage is that a remote-controlled vibrator is a sex toy where your partner can control the vibrations from another country or even another continent. With a Bluetooth or Wi-Fi enabled option, you can wear a vibrator on your body and let your partner control the speed and tempo of your toy. Or you can both wear a vibrator and blow the fuse, driving each other crazy.
3. during oral sex
If you’re giving someone penis oral sex, hold the side of your vibrator against your cheek as you go in and out. The wetness of your mouth paired with the gentle noise will feel unexpected and arousing. Here, it’s best to use a lay-on vibrator. With it, you can massage any part of your body. But mostly you lie on them, or they lie on you.
4. turn it down
Try using the vibrator externally on each other, with both you and your partner still wearing underwear. This is a really hot warm-up game to find out how your partner reacts if using a sex toy is new to him – which it probably is if your partner is a guy. Try rubbing it up and down his shaft, and he can try little circles on your vulva and around your clitoral area.
5. while your partner licks you
Have your partner insert the vibrator inside you, slightly angled towards your belly button. The combination of stimulation will provide an incredibly intense orgasm.
6. give your partner full control
Give your partner full control of the toy and let him use it on you during penetration. Have your partner lie on his back and then lie on top of him so that your back is against his chest. The entire front of your body is exposed, and he can guide the vibrator from your breasts to your clitoris.
Communicating with your partner – sex with vibrator
While some partners jump at the chance to bring a vibrator into the relationship, others may feel anxious or intimidated. To some partners, it might seem like you’re dissatisfied with your sex life or even reject them as a lover. Communication is key here! Having a positive, reassuring conversation about it can help your partner become comfortable with the idea. Here are my top tips on how to introduce the idea to your partner:
- Reassure your partner that you enjoy having sex with him or her. A vibrator is definitely not a substitute, it’s just a tool! A partner vibrator is a toy that is specifically designed for couples.
- Explain the importance of clitoral stimulation. We have been conditioned to believe that sex is synonymous with penetrative sex, but this completely ignores the fact that the majority of women need clitoral stimulation to reach orgasm. This information can be a good starting point to talk about the topic of sex with vibrator.
- Suggest that they might enjoy the added sensations, too! Depending on the type of vibrator, your partner may also enjoy the extra stimulation. C-shaped vibrators are great for this because they stimulate both of you at the same time – so everyone gets something out of it!
- Ask your partner to help you choose a vibrator that you both like and feel comfortable with. Shopping for sex toys together can be fun and may even get you in the mood!
- Reassure your partner that it’s okay if they aren’t sure how to use a vibrator with you – it will be a fun learning curve for both of you!
And as always…safety first
As always, sex toys should be cleaned after each use, whether you’re using them with yourself or with a partner, as they can transfer harmful bacteria or STDs between uses. This is especially a must if you have multiple partners with whom you have sex and/or use a vibrator.
If you use condoms during sex to protect yourself from STDs, you should do the same with a toy – either with a condom or another type of barrier (such as wearing the vibrator over your underwear). Cleaning between uses should get rid of most germs, but using a protective barrier provides extra protection for more stubborn germs hiding in nooks and crannies. And yes, if you’re using a condom-covered vibrator as a couple, you’ll need to change the condom between the two people.
Also, stick to body-safe toys, use medical-grade silicone, and avoid jelly toys at all costs.
